As a nanny you are not a friend, a mom, an auntie, a cousin. You are all of those things and more. Whether you are only with them one day a month, everyday of the week, or just once a week you are still a major part of those children’s lives. When they are with you they will look for you to have the playfulness of a friend, the love and protection of a mom, the support of an auntie, and the familiarity of a cousin. I know from my experience of being with kids that that I feel all those things and more for all the kids I watch. You love them as if they are your family and that’s what keeps you going. No you’re not going to be rich monetary wise from being a nanny, but you are going to be rich in so many other ways.
Spending all of your life or even parts of your life with children will make you feel happier and more inspired. I guarantee it. No every family you get placed with is not going to be the perfect fit, but when you find the few that are a perfect match your life will be changed forever. I have been lucky to find 5 families that I have been able to work for years with. They have watched me grow and adapt into the person and nanny I am today, and I have watched and help mold the tiny humans that their kids are today. A couple of the families I have watched their children for nine years. I’ve seen them grow from bumbling toddlers to opinionated, full of personality human beings.
I’ve been with another family since they had their first baby girl four years ago. They are now a family of five! A sassy and sweet four year old girl, a cuddly but independent two year old girl, and chubby, snuggly, not so little baby boy. I am the only babysitter they have had, besides family, and now I feel part of the family. The dynamic of my job with them has changed from tending and watching one baby to now finding a balance between keeping three toddlers fed and happy all at once. It’s a lot more hectic, but my nights with them are filled with so much love. These three happy little babies will be in my life forever because I will always make time.
The most important thing you can do for a child is to make them feel loved and supported by a stable presence. If you don’t make it a point to be a stable force in their life its next to impossible to form the emotional bond needed to create that security. I’m not saying you need to see them every month or every week, but every couple months or for big moments is key. Making a point to remember their birthdays and send a card or text to the parents to tell them hi and happy birthday reminds you are still thinking of them. If it is in you budget you can bring them a little present and card next time you see them as well so they can see that thing and look at you.
This past May, June, July, and August I had the pleasure of spending every weekday with a larger than life three year old named Ruby. I have nannied for families most summers for about 30-40 hours a week, but this summer was definitely the largest time and emotional commitment. I learned so much about myself and about what it really means to be there for a child day in and day out, especially a innocent toddler. The love I have for little Miss Ruby is greater then I ever imagined possible. I love and protect her like she is my own and always want to be there for her as she grows up. We began by spending Fridays together during the 2014/2015 school year and now that is what I’ll be doing again this school year. I look forward to my Fridays with Ruby every week and I know she looks forward to them as well. Our bond and love for each other is reciprocal, as it should be in any relationship with a child. You get back what you put in.
This blog will mostly focus on tips and tricks that I have learned as a nanny from my time with Ruby and my other kiddos over the years. Everything from things to do, places to visit, arts and crafts, treats to bake and how to keep your adult life in balance. I hope you enjoy!
(Kelly & Ruby 🙂 )